As I write this post today I am sitting on a train to London, currently travelling through the countryside somewhere between Stafford and London Euston, I am on my way to meet a lovely woman called Eliza Jane, she is one of the women that we have in our Lilypaddle Catalogue, I am going to be mentoring her somewhat on starting a blog as well as all of the things that go with that also just generally working with her on some bits for Lilypaddle, I am very much looking forward to working with her over the next couple of days, it is certainly going to be a lot of fun!
I am reminded once again how truly blessed I am to have the job that I do, to be the CEO of one amazing, successful company and a director of another equally amazing, successful company, not bad for the age of, almost, 27 hey? I’m incredibly proud of myself and where all of my hard work and determination has got me.
There is a young lady in my life currently who I’m going to protect the identity of because I haven’t discussed writing this with her and so I don’t think it is fair to just put her life out there, but she is 17 and making some serious life choices as is required of you at that age and I am reminded of being in that position myself, the advice that I gave her was to never give up, if there’s something you want to do and you’re willing to do whatever it takes to get there then never give up.
It is so very true, I have at this point in my life lost count of the amount of times people have told me to give up on what I’m doing, because it isn’t a real job, it doesn’t conform to societal norms and gosh damnit Charlotte you’re just too happy, stop being happy, be miserable like us, work in a job you hate!
Had I listened to any of those people who frankly made it very difficult for me to ignore them at times then I wouldn’t have the amazing life that I do have now.
Scars of those encounters still show themselves on me, now when I receive any useful criticism from the helpful people in my life I instinctively take it personal, come out fighting and defend myself as that is what I have spent the last 11 years doing because I had to, because I didn’t get the support that was needed I just got the disapproval, tear downs and discouragement and now sadly I am going through the difficult learning process that not everybody is against me, it is surprising to me how deep those scars go and how hard it actually is for me to learn that not everybody is against me.
So, my advice to the 17-year-old in my life and to any of you out there in similar positions, don’t give up. If you’re prepared to put in all the hard work and do whatever it takes to get to where you want to be, even though the road may be hard, long and lonely at times then don’t give up, because one day you’ll find yourself sitting on a train to London or wherever you may be thinking, oh god… I actually did it, I have actually achieved what I set out to achieve and now things can only keep getting better, it really is a remarkable feeling when that moment hits, but don’t worry, if you miss that moment the first time around, it hits every morning when you wake up to do the thing that you always wanted to do.